Everyone's healing journey is as individual and beautiful as they are. My Grandma used to say that if we were all alike, the world would be a really boring place. It is so important that you realize (I may be talking to myself a little here) that not all paths are the same and that's ok. What works for someone else or someone else's healing timeline is not yours. You may go to a therapist or healer for one session and feel better right away because someone validated you and listened to you for the first time in a long time (if not for the first time ever). You may go to years worth of therapy untwisting the many knots and tangles that got you where you are. You may be like me and need years worth of therapy, self help books, and a multitude of practitioners. I have done Chinese medicine, Western medicine, praying, Reiki, yoga, massage, craniosacral therapy, spiritual guidance, meditation, crying, coaching, sometimes isolating, sometimes relying on friends, family support, being away from my family, sound healing, card readings...etc, etc... etc. I have needed all of those things and when I look back I am so thankful for all of the people/practitioners/helpers (in the flesh and in spirit) that have been there for me. Every step, service, connection, good experience, uncomfortable experience got me to where I am today and I am by no means done with my healing.
Developmental Psychology states that human development is something that continues over a lifetime. We could all benefit from accepting that we will be working on ourselves and our relationships until the day we die. This human experience lasts just a blink of an eye. This is what we are here to do. We are here to have a human experience, be there for each other and work together to help each other through the trenches of life. Recently, it has come to my attention, especially living through a global trauma, political turmoil, racial traumas and more that we need more than ever to be attuned to each other and what we all need each other to survive. This is a group project and not the kind that you had in school where only some people did the work.
Another important element to beginning your healing journey and participating in a global healing journey is to be vulnerable. Good grief, it is so hard to admit that you are struggling, but let me tell you that we are all struggling whether we admit it or not. One of the most powerful statements someone can hear is someone else say, "me too". The really cool thing about us being able to admit that we are hurt and need help is that once we start that process we not only heal ourselves and others around us, but our healing heals past generations and future generations as well. I say this in a matter of fact way (which is backed up by science) and in a magical spiritual way because healing IS magical and holistic (mind, body and soul). The practice and experience of healing is nothing short of a miraculous endeavor. Much love and support to you on your journey!